What awareness is measured by

Everyone has problems, every day: with money, with children, in relationships. If not you, then someone you know. And we have all come up against deception. All this is usually called chaos, or the daily rush. The words are familiar but shallow: they do not convey the depth of what is happening. In reality a person lives on autopilot, only taking part in what is built around them. Which of us even understands this? So how can you tell whether a person has awareness or not?

People attribute awareness on the basis of outward signs

Awareness may turn up in a child and be missing in an adult. Yet it is attributed to a teacher, a scientist, someone with a spiritual title, or whoever you yourself decided to see that way. That person, of course, accepts the role. So outward things begin to pass for the essence: a title, the wish to save face or to prove yourself.

From the actions alone you can always tell that there is no awareness there, only gain, calculation and the use of others. If you take the thought further, you will start looking for the key to it and examine one detail: why you attribute awareness to that person in particular, and what you put into it. What is your aim? And you are bound to find that you put your own calculation there and are ready to justify it with anything. In fact, you have prepared a betrayal and set yourself against everyone and everything.

An opinion passed on turns into conditions

Then you pass this opinion on to someone else in just the same way. They pass it to the next person, and here runs a border that has already stopped being a border: it is a breach in the wall that all and sundry climb through. This is how any situation, created by a person or by someone for them, grows into conditions.

What do I mean by this? Think carefully about the words themselves, “conditions”, “environment” and “situation”, and you will see at once: in the past day alone, you yourself likewise tried to settle or close out your issues through someone else. These, too, went out into the environment and crossed paths with other people’s. This is what creates the chaos people misunderstand: decisions cross one another until they run up against their opposite or against opposition, which then turns into action.

And bear in mind straight away that every single person does exactly the same. Now imagine how many conditions and environments of all kinds each person prepares for someone else, stores up and uses. All this is thrown into society, where everything is mixed together. How can you run your life in such a mix if conditions run it?

Those blamed are not the ones holding it all up

When consequences come, people point the finger at the leadership and blame everyone they can. But it is not the leadership holding all this up. We are, you and I.

It is we who teach even our own children where to go and what to strive for. And we do not even understand what we teach them. In fact, we teach them all the same things, all those problems they are a hundred per cent bound not only to run into but to live in. Only a tiny percentage will find a way out. That is how we love…

The ones blamed grew up the same way: on their parents’ guidance and opinions taken from society. They are just like all of us: me, mine, for me. With so narrow a focus, one person creates problems for another to survive at their expense.

Money is like home: what you left is what you find

Where do you get money, why are some lucky and others not, and when will wealth finally come? Almost everyone thinks about this. People look for answers in tarot cards, from fortune-tellers, in superstitions and in other people’s advice. How you get conned in all this is something I will show you, and I will give you all the answers and solutions. You get conned even when you happen to earn a bit on the side and think: “Hey, it worked!” In reality you have covered a day but lost a month, if not a year.

In fact, each person has only what they themselves kept, accepted, approved of, taught others and nurtured. It is the same as at home: whatever anyone left, wherever and however, stays as it was until they put it away themselves or someone in the family tidies up after them.

When the whole mind is taken up with material things, a person measures everything by earnings, achievements and what sets them apart from others. Care for themselves and those close to them gives way to calculation. And young people grow up on their parents’ money, given to them instead of care and time.

Here is one small example. Suppose you can buy anything. Try buying back the time you have lost. If you can, you are a super-being and a superhuman! And the answer to this fully determines everything.

Where does that time go? While you devote your life to someone who does nothing to complement you, they gain both their own life and your help to live and survive in it. And you simply lose yours. Yet most often we focus on winning relationships and results where we are not accepted, and spend most of our time on that. And where people are ready to complement us, we already take it for granted and lose what was there. So here, too, the definition speaks for itself. Your wishes completely contradict even the results you yourself need.

Awareness is measured by choice

Awareness is not cleverness, not IQ, not even intellect. It is what will always remain in you and with you, and that is the whole meaning of your life. You can be anyone and think anything you like about yourself. That is your right. It is not my place to interfere in that or to influence you. What defines you is choice: decisions and actions. It is backed up by your deeds and the motive you put into them, and it is by these that awareness shows for certain. Everything is a choice. What you choose is what you live in.

In relationships, everything shows the same way: in the other person’s choice. There is always a place for you in it, and the kind of place it is shows their real attitude to you. And whatever they show you is not the real thing. If everything is there in words but falls short in deeds, the attitude rests on mood.

What makes you a leader is a choice in which your qualities work for you. When you need to stand out, you usually reach for the same outward things, and they play against you. We pass ourselves off as someone we are not, look for the real thing, and all the while our whole behaviour offers a game. You have many qualities, and each either works for you and complements you, or is destructive and keeps creating problems. It is not the qualities themselves that decide this, but your choice, attitude and conclusions.

Conspiracy thinking is of a person’s own making

Lies everywhere, it is all rigged, they have plotted against us: this is how people explain both lack of money and failure. But there is no conspiracy, nor any of the things you hear about. Every choice shows the logic of whoever made it. An obedient person at least thinks about something now and then. Cowardice, though, can always be justified with anything. Justified, that is, instead of changing something in yourself. That is all there is to conspiracy thinking: a person creates it themselves, affirms it themselves and brings it to life with their own cowardice and stupidity, while turning away from reality. That is exactly how you get conned.

Questions to ask yourself

There is one measure, and you can apply it to yourself right now:

• Who have you attributed awareness to without looking at their choice?
• Who have you tried to settle your issues through in the past day?
• What are your children really learning from you?
• Who do you blame for what you create for yourself with your own hands?
• How much time have you given to money you still never have enough of?
• Which of your choices have you backed up with action in the past week?
• What place do you hold in the choice of someone close to you?
• What do you try to stand out with, and who does it really work for?
• What do you justify instead of changing?

An unpleasant answer to even one question shows where to start tidying up. If an answer will not come, write to me below: we will work through it together.